When Love Feels Hard

There are moments in every marriage when love feels more like effort than emotion. The spark that once came easily can sometimes feel buried under the weight of schedules, stress, and unspoken frustrations. But seasons like this don’t mean the love is gone — they often mean God is inviting us to grow deeper.   

Real love isn’t proven on the easy days; it’s refined in the hard ones. It’s in those moments   of misunderstanding or silence that God teaches us patience, humility, and grace.    1 Peter 4:8 reminds us, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” That kind of love isn’t surface-level — it’s the kind that keeps showing up when feelings   fade.   

Here are three ways to hold on when love feels hard:   

1. Pray Before You React. “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in   truth.” (Psalm 145:18) When tensions rise, invite God into the conversation before it starts. Prayer doesn’t just change your spouse — it softens your heart.   

2. Choose Grace Over Grudges. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you   has a grievance against someone.” (Colossians 3:13) Forgiveness isn’t forgetting; it’s releasing. Every time you let go of bitterness, you make room for healing.   

3. Remember Why You Said ‘Yes.’ “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them   around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” (Proverbs 3:3) Go back to the beginning — to the vows, the laughter, the hope you shared. Let those memories remind   you that what you have is worth fighting for.   

God can restore what’s been strained and reignite what’s grown dim. Love becomes strongest when it learns to lean on Him. With love and prayers, Domingo